Kev wrote:srinath wrote:In effect what the acceptance group is saying is ... the kid is under 18 and is my dependent, so i dont have to give them the choice to answer that question at all. My kid, my choice. If the kid cant say what he/she wants, too bad, I'll do as I please. Not me. I prefer to give him the choice as well as equip him to understand/decide and answer it.
Seeing as that's the direct opposite of what I actually said, and I don't assume to speak for anyone except myself I'm going to assume you're simply trolling.
Shh....adults are talking.
That's exactly what you said kev. That the vast majority of autistic adults dont want to be cured.
So you have heard that and imposed that on your daughter. While it may be true that she may not want to be non autistic, or that her symptoms are mild enough that she doesn't need to be treated ... whatever. She may not have understood the implications or even been able to respond. My son doesn't have GI issues for the most part, but I can assure you when we did our GFCF diet he was in abject misery. He wanted cookies and bread and cheese and yogurt and no substitutes were going to do it. To me that is a plain signal that they dont want diet restrictions.
You and I and few others here are some of the lucky ones that have kids that dont have GI issues. The rest of the kids, dont want to be denied cookies and pizza and chocolate. To those kids ... acceptance is just plain abuse and they aren't vocal enough to tell you they want it so you enforce your will. If a child understood enough and could talk they'd want cookies and chocolate and pizza ... autistic or not.
So no I am not trolling. Your acceptance is barely above abuse. The kid has no idea what she's missing or what she has. The kid needs to know both to make an informed descision. Before denying the kid pizza saying its his choice not to eat pizza, you'd need to feed the kid pizza. And its not a specific example for your daughter and pizza is a metaphor. These Kids dont know what it is to be non autistic. So they aren't making an informed choice. I and other parents here are trying to actually give them the possibility of making an informed choice.